This month I’m handing the musing reins to fellow author and friend, Shannah Biondine, while I do a bit of blogging/musing/remembering
at http://rememberingronnoe.blogspot.com/
As many of you know, my brother Ron passed away October 20, 2007 from cancer. At his services, his friends and family gathered to celebrate the life he lived. I, in turn, wanted to continue this celebration, so I created a blog titled “Remembering Ron.” It’s my hope that others will share their memories of my brother as well as enjoy all the memories posted there.
“We never truly fade away as long as we are remembered.”
Until next time, may the magic always brighten your world! Sheri
Musings from Shannah Biondine:
THE BLESSINGS OF ADVERSITY
It’s that time of year again, when we get ready to gather with family and friends and celebrate the holiday of Thanksgiving, literally reflecting on our lives and our various blessings. When we think of what we’re grateful for, it’s obvious to come up with aspects like health, stability, faith, family, good neighbors and friends…the list is long indeed. But how often do we stop and thank the Higher Power for the challenges we’ve had to face?
There’s a saying that every good sailor has weathered his share of storms and steered around rocks and reefs. A seafarer whose only experience has been mild breezes and glassy seas hasn’t been tested. Who knows if he’ll have the insights and skills to survive a vicious storm?
Our lives are like that. If they’re easy and flow smoothly, we can be grateful that we haven’t had to struggle…but that’s small comfort because sooner or later that gale wind or the lashing rain will find us. How will we deal with it?
Within the past year my father had a heart attack, my youngest child went off to college, my husband found himself in a miserable employment situation that sent him spiraling into a mid-life depression, and I had carpal tunnel surgery. Each of these events were stressful in and of themselves–the combination was admittedly very tough at times. Yet I wouldn’t wish any of those things banished. Looking back since last fall at this time, I can see benefits and gains that also came, sometimes growing out of the very adversity that seemed crushing at first.
I’m not saying every dark cloud has a silver lining, but many do. In some instances we would never have developed a certain talent or strength unless we were forced to. The easy chair is comfy, but we wouldn’t stand on it to change the batteries in the smoke alarm that could save our lives.
Like the characters Sheri and I write about and readers empathize with, we all need crises. Human beings need strife and conflict, obstacles to surmount. Without conflict, there is no story, fictionally speaking. This is also true in real life. Without adversity and challenges, I think we’d all be lesser mortals, lacking in depth and sympathy and wisdom.
We don’t necessarily like having to rise to the occasion when times are tough, but we do it. Epic disasters like Katrina or the California wildfires touch us, not so much for the widespread devastation as for the very real human struggle of individuals and groups who battle back, who perform heroic deeds or just small gestures of kindness.
This year, particularly if your turkey is neither dried out nor underdone, if the gravy isn’t lumpy, the rolls aren’t burnt, and you don’t find yourself sitting down to dinner with some obnoxious relative who sets your teeth on edge, say a prayer of thanks for all you have, and all you lack. For your flaws, ignorance, insecurities, and weakness. Be grateful for every imperfect part of yourself and your life, as grateful as you are for the good things in it.
If you’re truly fortunate, 2008 will bring you opportunities to grow and amend some of that. You’ll be tested, be forced to stretch. You’ll have fresh chances to find out who you are and who you can be. None of it may be the stuff of legends or make grist for the holiday form letter mill, but these will be new blessings.
I wish you the insight and strength to find them and incorporate them.
Happy Thanksgiving!
Shannah
P.S. In case you’re wondering what’s new, Sheri and I are currently working on an upcoming joint fantasy project for Double Dragon Publishing. Watch for more details on our duet later….
And if you’re stuck for holiday gift ideas, we’d like to suggest the gift of reading at Amazon.com. Not only does the site carry our trade paperbacks, but all of Double Dragon’s extensive library of titles will soon be offered at Amazon as downloads. So give the gift of fantasy, science fiction, mystery, romance, and adventure to those hard-to-shop for folks on your list and watch them have a delightful New Year!